“It All Starts with You”
Do you believe this?
I am sure. You do.
That’s why you are listening to me.
These two words, YOU and BELIEF, very closely related. You can say, its two sides of the same coin.
Everything starts with me. If you can take the responsibility of what’s happening in your life and believe it wholeheartedly, things in your life will definitely start changing.
As you may be knowing, Responsibility means Response able which means when you are literally response-able to take accountability of your actions, your behavior, your life gear will take a complete U-turn!
But is it possible to take responsibility wholeheartedly?
No away. You can say, it’s next to impossible.
Because we always tempted to give the blame to others.
Because of so and so, it happened. Because of so and so, I missed this. Blames are going on and on.. because of taking the accountability on our shoulders.
Accountability doesn’t happen just by chance. It has to be implemented.
Many people don’t understand what accountability is, why it’s important, or where it starts. Yes they understand accountability is important, but don’t know how to create a culture of accountability, they just hope it will happen.
It’s never-ending. It’s because of our negative self-talk.
And result? We are stuck in the same situation …..
Have you ever heard to take 100% responsibility for your life?
The big deal is that it moves you from victim to victor of your life. It will make you to go the next higher level of your life. It will make you the top class!
Because once you can take 100% sensibility of your actions, your behaviour, you can take charge of your life to deal with any situation.
But its not that easy doing than saying!
People drop responsibility for reasons ranging from simple laziness, procrastination to fear of failure, sometimes because of a sense of feeling overwhelmed by the scale of a problem or a situation.
Whatever might be the reason, if people fail to take responsibility, they’ll fail in their jobs, they’ll fail their teams, and they’ll fail to grow as individuals.
All of this makes it important to address this issue of taking responsibility I mean response-able to take accountability for one,s action! One,s behavior!!
Making excuses instead of taking one hundred percent responsibility for your actions, your thoughts, and your goals are the hallmark of people who fail to succeed both in their professional lives and personal lives.
You are totally responsible for your life. This is the foundational principle you must embrace if you plan for happiness and success in your life and work.
Taking responsibility puts you at the choice and that allows you to choose how to respond to life’s challenges. You move into the driver seat of your life’s journey.
Most of all, taking 100% responsibility changes your energy!
As you know, we are energy, our thoughts, feelings, words, and actions are energy and the law of attraction brings us more of what we think and feel. It merely matches the energy of your thoughts and feelings with experiences that will give you the same energy.
Now, when you broadcast thoughts that result in you feeling good, the law of attraction responds by bringing you the experiences that will confirm you feeling good.
Don’t you agree that it pays to take responsibility for your life?
I know, you will agree once you know the following aspects of taking responsibility vis a vis response-able to be accountable for your actions!
- Take responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, words, and actions.
Taking responsibility for your life means taking responsibility for your powers of thinking, feeling, speaking, and acting, because this is the structure of all human experience. You create your life with your thoughts, feelings, words, and actions.
You take responsibility when you accept that the thoughts you have, are your thoughts coming from your mind. How you feel happens in your body and is a result of your thoughts. The words you speak come from your mouth and voice. The actions you take, are taken by you.
It all starts with you!
What this means is that nobody can make you think, feel, say, or do anything. Nobody can push your buttons, because you are the button maker! In the same way, you don’t have control over how other people respond as they respond from their mindset.
- Stop blaming
Stop blaming your partner, parents, economy, your upbringing, or anyone for your misfortune. Blaming keeps you in victim mode and robs you of changing your situation.
Try to dig deep what George Bernard Shaw says
“When you blame others, you give up your power to change.”
Now you can look at the situation from a different angle and decide what best you can do about it.
Ask yourself, “What is my role in this?”
- Stop complaining
Complaining is another form of blaming and playing the victim as if you have no choice. It also shows that you focus on lack, things going wrong, things happening to you. In everything not going according to plan, there is a gift, there is a bigger picture.
Ask yourself, “What is the gift here? What can I learn from this?”
- Refuse to take anything personally
Assuming that everything is about you. Taking any form of disagreement as a personal attack. Remember, you don’t have control over how other people respond, you only have control over how you respond.
Refuse to take anything personal.
It is most probably not about you, but about the issue at hand. Instead of making assumptions, rather ask questions. This is a very powerful and liberating practice, with never-ending surprises.
Ask yourself, “Is this about me, or the issue at hand?”
- Make yourself happy
Taking responsibility for your happiness is liberating. Firstly to realize that happiness does not come from outside of you. It is not the job of your partner, parent, friend, child, to make you happy.
To be happy is a decision and the gateway to happiness is gratitude. Keep a gratitude journal and you will find lots to be happy about.
Also, do things that make you feel happy. Listen to your favourite music, surround yourself with beauty, express your creativity, do acts of kindness, etc.
Ask yourself, “What about this could make me happy?”
- Live in the present moment
Life is now. There is only one moment, now. The past is history, the future is a mystery, so there is only now this moment. Take responsibility for this moment and make the best of it to redeem the past and create the future you want.
Be the gatekeeper of your thoughts and refuse to have a rerun of the same 60000 thoughts of yesterday if they do not get you to want in life.
Choose your thoughts carefully in every moment and when you become present you have the awareness of what you are thinking and feeling. This then allows you to interrupt thoughts that do not serve you. Deliberately change them at the moment to what you want to create at that moment to shape your future.
In this aspect, you can read the great book ‘ The power of now”
Ask yourself, “Am I in the present moment, and what do I want?”
- Use the power of intention
You have the power to choose. In fact, you are making choices all the time. Tea or coffee, red dress or black dress, hair up or down, yoga or go for a run. Even by not making a choice, you are making a choice.
Become intentional in making choices by having a vision in mind. A vision for your life, your business, your relationship, your health, wealth, etc.
Ask, “Is saying yes to this moving me towards my goal?”
- Feel calm and confident
When you take responsibility for your life and experience, you step into a place of calm confidence. You feel calm because you know that you are consciously in charge of yourself and that you can choose how you respond.
You feel confident that you will not fall into victim-mode by sucking up to other people’s verbal vomit. They can keep those gifts.
Ask yourself, “What do I choose to accept from this conversation and how do I choose to respond?”
- Look for the good in people
There’s a saying that we judge ourselves by our intentions and we judge others by their behaviour.
Make it your new habit to look for the intentions behind people’s behaviour. So often when we understand where someone comes from, we let go of judgment.
If we can deliberately practice the above aspects, definitely we can make ourselves response able to take responsibility and it will lead your life to new heights!
From Today onwards, just keep on saying. It all starts with me. I believe this from the core of my heart….
Once you keep on saying this, you can quiet your mind for never-ending expectations…
As Brian Tracy says “Peak performance begins with your taking complete responsibility for your life and everything that happens to you.”
Then only, I am sure, you can unleash the Giant within….
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